How do you know when you’re in love and it’s not just infatuation? For me, I get this fluttery feeling in my chest when I see them. It’s almost as if my heart is bursting out of my chest. But falling in love with someone is much more than just an intense attraction or having fun with them.

When I’m falling in love, I can’t stop smiling when I’m around them, but I also have no problem being myself. That’s the moment when I know I’m in love with someone—I just relax and stop trying to put forth my good side. I know that I can just truly be me without worrying that they’ll run for the hills. It’s the moment when I let down my guard and show them some of my baggage because I know I can trust them enough to share it with them.

Being in love is much more than just roses and romantic dates—it’s allowing someone through the walls you’ve built around yourself and letting them see the real you. It’s not about pretending to be someone who’s constantly fun and laidback. It’s about showing that you’re a real person with neuroses, and knowing that they’ll love you for the whole package—not just your good sides. When I have this faith in someone, it’s how I know that my heart is going pitter patter for a reason. It’s because I’m in love.